So with a bit of time on my hands being on holidays, I decided to dip my toe back into the dating pond. I want to meet people to have fun with and to hang out, but it is actually just as nasty as I remember.

It is absolutely a numbers game. You swipe right on 20 people and maybe one or two swipe back. You start a conversation to try and gauge who they are as a person, and sometimes it is very clear, very quickly. other times it takes a little while and you start getting just a little bit hopeful! … that’s a dangerous thing!

You chat for a while and maybe a phone call or two, and then you organise to meet in person. Again, sometimes the negative outcome is super clear right from the beginning, and other times you have a fabulous time talking about all kinds of things… thinking that perhaps there’s a mutual spark. … and then the ghosting happens. Longer and longer between messages, until you get no more responses, and then they hit on your friend!

I have had that happen now a couple of times, people chatting with me and then moving onto my friends (sometimes after they have met them in person while with me!) … luckily we have a pretty strong girl code and will check in with each other, and if there has been a date it’s a no, but it’s pretty demoralising in so many ways. It sparks a whole lot of second guessing and negative thinking and it feels really yucky!

I really don’t think that the dating world is a sport I am cut out for! It is entirely too hard to judge someone’s else’s motivation on the apps. I know my intent and honesty, but have no clue about the people on the site. It is entirely too hard, time consuming and frustrating, so I think I am going back into time out, but if anyone has any ideas for a better way to meet people, please let me know!